MEM: Remove onRetryList from BusPort and rely on retryList

This patch removes the onRetryList field from the BusPort class and
entirely relies on the retryList which holds all ports that are
waiting to retry. The onRetryList field and the retryList were
previously used with overloaded functionalities and only one is really
needed (there were also checks to assert they held the same
information). After this patch the bus ports will be split into master
and slave ports and this simplifies that transition.

util/regress all passing (disregarding t1000 and eio)